Bibas I agree with you, but you cannot expect pyar to give up all the privileges provided to him just because we think it's wrong... The system of keeping servants needs to be abolished and until it's done so, I don't think any army official would say no to what he considers his right.... "But, given your assumption that making the wedding big makes one happy, I feel sorry for you mokshya". Bibas ji, now you got a bit personal here... Since you dragged me in, let me say this to you. "No big marriage ALONE will not make me happy. However, if i think i have everything else I want to make myself happy, such ceremony will be a cherry on the top". And I"m being dead-honest here.... Nevertheless, I cannot use my criteria of happiness to measure everyone elses.... As for the bride, this may be all that she had wanted and her father tried to accomplish it.. Big deal!! I was just giving my opinion and I don't think you should feel sorry for me just because I don't agree with you :-)