girl inter: who is saying, i will be able to get rid of it...........never ever in my life. Even buddha was not able to get rid of it. I use to think as u before, i use to think supressing negative feeling may end in explosive anger. There is another way to tackle it, I do share it, it can be shared in forum or with your trusted fren. Whenever i feel something, i honestly share it. How it feels? Sharing is the great art which makes u very controlled and helps you to arrest. There is no other way than to share. Do u know we only use 20 % verbal communication but rest 80 is non verbal. U express with your eyes, behaviour/atttitude which lies in your unconsies mind.Only thing we can deal is to balance subconsicous mind. You have to understand concept of super ego( positive ego) which will give u inside view of our mind. Remember mind, intellect and soul is 3 different things.Actually we say that we are consious but no we are in sub consious mind, Being in consicous mind is being in super ego. our consicous mind is responsible for filtering negative thougts. Why do we suffer coz our negative filter mechanies fails and denial mechanism gets activated. Nowdays, i focus more on transparent relation than translucent. Lets talk on Expectation........do you know i am on high risk state as recovering addict, I am dependent on my family. Before i was not depending on it. I am attached not only financially but emotionally. Ony thing that scare me now is my emotional hangover. I dont have any chemical hangover but my swinging mood brings emotional hangover from past. Today, i got one tool which keeps me in high spirit that is " blast the past" "my past is my best teacher". Well, i dont want to use Positive way of thinking"QUITE A BIG WORD" Only thing on this as shortcut i can say is , i am not going aroung visicous circle of emotional hangover. I have accepted the fact and now i can cope with the enviroment accepting it as my reality. It has made my life easy coz i am not scared to face my reality. I have controlled my denial mechanism. Finally, god grant me the power and serenity to accept the people as they are and wisdom to know the difference. I hope to prove one day with my slogan" action speaks louder than word" uhi recovering addict moneyminded