For me love and gratitude is 2 diff story. Well if u want to be gratify someone than okie. The true love should not be selfish. If there is selfishness in love then it is not love. PPL says love is selfish but they are wrong, It is not love. Love Should be like one done by higher power, even we make so many mistakes. He forgives us saying it is not mistake when u realise it and dont repat it. He forgives it saying " i dont hate sinners but i hate sin". It is not allah, christ, shiva, guru nanak nor jhulelal. It is your faith which comes from within. It is within you.....so this is what love should be like and i do belive that match are made in heaven, no doubt just check it. seek love from enemy then u get real love. U will see there is love in there resentment coz u will realise that one day they will change. I know one day miracle happens, i just need to have patience and tolerance power. The most important thing is take one step at a time. Be happy with with your small flower pot than neighbour's garden. I hope to have no lip service, grandiosity and corner cutting in love. even though they dont love me........my biggest gratitude to all the loved ones and ppl who hate me as well who help me to look on my negative side and to workout. They make me realise that i have to change , i cant change. Uhi moneyminded recovering addict Real man does sacrifice not compromise