I am only deep enuff to realize that I am real shallow...I mean especially when it comes to girls...I am real, real picky. If a girl is not 100% perfect my thing wont even get up. There are a lot of girls that are very decent looking, 7 or 8s, that I like as ppl but I would never get with them...but then the girls that I get with...sometimes I don't even really like them but they're just so good looking that I can't help myself. You know the type of girl...real stuck up cuz she knows shes pretty, very fiesty and judgemental, talks smart...they're so arrogant but i love that...getting with someone like that is like taming a wild animal or something...I feel like I'm better than them once i get with them and thats why i do it. But the thing is I would never actually Date these girls that I don't like..so I've had very few actual GFs becuase they need to have both looks and personality... so i found this one girl that I really like as a person and shes also very good looking...but the thing is now I really don't know which of the two aspects of her makes me actually wanna go out with her...I really don't wanna think its just her looks becuase i am afraid that I am actually pretty shallow and why haven;t I liked other girls as much, but at the same time I know if she wasn't as good looking I wouldn't be as interested....Are other guys like this too or am I just an asshole? Moreover the thing is I don't know how to let the good girls know that I'm not interested in them in a nice way, because I'm not trying to be mean, I like them as a people, but just not in that way...so I lead em on...I let them sit on my lap and whisper in my ear at parties cuz i don't know how to say no to that...but at the same time I feel like more of an asshole becuase I feel like I'm giving them false hope....and i actually find it fun sometimes to flirt with girls and make them like me even though I would never actaully get with them....so again how much of an asshole am I? And how can I change myself?...or do i really need to?