I reckon the compulsion one feels about "order from the above" is a part of brainwashing. I understand your justifying family needs. There is no two opinions about it. If that is the way it is justified by the armed forces, fine. But what do YOU think about that? To what extent one should go to protect his family and what if everyone goes to the same extent? All I have to say is when I see myself in their positions, I feel I won't do it. But again I am not in their position and perhaps I would never know.