mokshya I guess u fall in the bahun or chettri group - I am too - just do what is best for you and your family - leave the tension behind and just follow your instinct. Life is very short to be worrying about how we are going to educate others about where we have come from and where we are now...As long as you can make it don't sweat it - if you can help others take a step ahead and show your norms, if you need to step back a little to disregard what others have to say about us - i'd say step back. Because we never win if we fight. We should be proud of our JAAT. And I am, let no one worry you and even if they do just listen to them and say yes you r the greatest - YOU WILL ALWAYS WIN....