naya_nepali - hare!!!!!! ufffff!! we are trying to deal with a human here not some experiment ke! rum- don't listen to these people who are saying go for it and go for it ke!!! uffff!!! cause that's just dumb! see even if your parents do finally come around to accept the girl after you marry her, the society that you live will probally not in your generation at the least ke! unless you decide to have no contact with whatsoever nepalese people ke!!! because there will always be something that will come up throughout your life time that could result in you guys having fights about your caste ke!!! so, i don't think it's a good idea and plus does she have no problem with marrying you??? see if you care about how the community in which you live says behind your back, then i don't think it's such a good idea! i know this sounds dumb cause it is the 21st century but even though i don't think a lot of people have gotten over this caste thing yet! okay you love her and she loves you! but this passion that you have for her will proabaly be at the high end right now when you really want to marry her, but after all that and you've settled down you're gonna have kids and a job, and it's will be really hard for you to fit into the nepalese community ke! i am sure that in the US no will tell you anything but during your time with her, there will come times when think about each other's castes ke and this could create a problem in the long run ni!!! also think about your parents, they don't want this and you'll cause them to be talkative with her parents, but they don't even want to, so did they raise you up so you could put them in a situation where they don't want to be in? and one thing i have found is that nepalese parents that are well educated are the ones that care the MOST about castes in marriages ke!!!!! i know you love her, but for your own and also her life i am sure you could leave her!! and give it tons of time which will cause you to move on with your life and you could get married to a girl from you cast!!!! i know this sounds crazy but life is not fair!! :) :) PS: do let me know what you decided to do! (wink,wink)