It's a difficult question, indeed, and there is no easy answer. Like many, I too am in similar predicament. On one hand, there is this filial duty that I am obligated to fulfill. For had it not been for my parents, I would not be where I am today. They keep telling me, that children are all they have for old age, call it social secuirty or retirement plan. Hence, this high expectation in all colors - certain amount of money to be sent home regularly, additional money to be wired now and then for such incidentals such as home improvement or puja or what have you, further money to bear gifts that can be ostensibly compared with parents of Ram and Hari who are also in Amrika, and so on and so forth. And now it is the Maoists who have come knocking at our parents' doors. Timro chora chori ta Amrika ma cha, khoi hamilai paisa deu - bhanera demand aaucha re. At some point this becomes unbearable, but one is hard pressed to confront this issue. For, we as individuals also have responsibility towards our family here, our kids, and the expenses thereof. For, people back home don't understand the expenses incurred here. For, people back home think money grows in trees. The dark side of American Dream.