I understand what you are saying newlynew but I am not talking about just the gifts that you take with you when you visit back home...that is no big deal and is totally up to you how you want to handle that. I am talking more like certain amount you are expected to send back home to your parents periodically since you are earning here now. They see or hear that you are making so much per year, falana ko chora is in same country as you and is only earning this much per year but send this huge amount every 2-3 months..he can do it why can't you like of deal..!!! They only see the income not any expenses.. Naake jee, I am sure it is not only the issue of me or u. I am pretty sure that us coming all from same culture and back ground, this issue is very important and sensitive. I would really like to know how each of us are handling this. Revival.