VB, Niti, - POLICIES - are needed to tackle such craps in life. That's the right tool. Anyhow, What will you do if this guy - COLDFIRE, gives you the contact add. of that woman?? What will be your move?? Do you know what you are going to say to her ? if yes, do you think that will work? will you be able to get CF's 500 dollars back ?? Will you be able to reverse that 1000 miles back in CF's odometer ??? That's your problem anyway. In my experience, to save and continue relationships with people need Proper/right policies in daily life. Well. Good Luck ! - Lady Jesus. [But your assumption was wrong anyway]