TO-- man, it doesn't have to be too personal... i understand you have your own set of opinions on things and you're certainly entitled to them, but dragging other participants out of their comfort zones and forcing them into defending themselves on matters too personal sounds really out of line to me... what i mean is, meera doesn't have to commit to you on whether she'll marry a non-bahun to make her point. in fact, she very well may, and rightly so... but i see very little relevance between what meera might or might not do and what ms. pokhrel might/might not have done. you gotta acknowledge individual idiosyncrasies... such a thing does exist. forcing people to keep out of the discussions not because they have nothing to say but because they'd have to put up with the apparent abuse and personal attacks is no win.