Alright fine, forget her bahun heritage for a second. Meera, do you realize how Durga Pokharel went to Harvard? She was a Nepali Congress up and comer, so they decided to send her to Harvard! As simple as that! That's how things work in Nepal. They don't look at your your intellectual prowess. She didn't go to Harvard through hard work. It was pure chakadi. Actually her fellow bahuns decided to send her to Harvard. So her degree means nothing to me. She ain't that smart. "Are u calling her a skank because she married a British and he chose to be a Hindu? " That makes him a hippie. A true Hindu is born a Hindu. Yes, I do have a problem with that. Multiracial children tend to be confused. I know a 1/8th palestinian girl(mostly Sicilian) and she doesn't know if she's white or not. She disses her mother all the time for making her so confused. If you want your children to suffer, go ahead, give them hell by dating a non-bahun. I'm not the person running your life. You can do whatever you want to do. "I always tell all my frens to marry outside their caste so that we can end the castism among Nepalis. " Skip the rest and just read this passage because what I'm about to say is important. I don't believe you even one percent, and let me tell you why. First, I recommend that you read a book called Freakonomics. Has to be one of the best books I have ever read. The dude does a study on online dating habits of Whites. Of the people who stated they would date people of any races, most of them ended up checking profiles of people of their own race. Know what I'm saying? The majority of White people who say they love dating people regardless of skin-color are liars, plain and simple. And here's the kicker: although he doesn't mention it, it was obvious from the statistics that women tend to be more conservative then men. However, I am also gonna concede that Asian broads (not Indians, as they tend to be conservative but East Asians) chase White men. As for Indians, those born here tend to date other groups heavily. You might tell your "frens"(lol, you and some other gals on this board sound the same to me due to your rather liberal usage of this chatroom word) to date outside of their castes, but you yourself not gonna do it. Please prove me wrong. Marry somebody outside of your caste. I challenge you. You're not gonna do it. Alright, here's the challenge. Marry somebody who's a non-bahun. Once you do that, come back to Sajha and let us know about it. Or, you can email me, if you wanna keep it private. All I'm saying is this: I don't see you marrying a non-bahun. You remind me of American liberals. They scream equality and what not, but when blacks move to their neighborhoods, they're the first to pack their bags and leave. That's what happened to Howard Stern in his liberal neighborhood. I'm saying that so-called "liberals' are a bunch of hypocrites. You tell your friends to marry other ethnic groups, but are YOU willing to do the same? The way you framed it made me scratch my head. However, I don't believe you Meera. Just prove me wrong, I beseech you. Marry somebody who's not bahun. Now if you asked me the same question, I'd say no, I don't see myself marrying a non-bahun. But whatever floats your boat.