Aloneness, you have to read the whole book to judge it rather than just looking at the cover! observing someone's behaviour for 10 minutes gives you no idea of how the person really is. About my words.. well I am atleast glad you had something good to say about them. Psychology is certainly not your department as you cannot even understand the real meaning behind a light hearted joke. Try to look into the jokes and see their real meaning. being too sensitive to small things deprive you from experiencing the real fun. Anyone could get tremendously hurt by being called names such as "stupid and ghamandi" or they can laugh it off as a joke... try to understand what the meaning behind those words really are. "Its your perception of a person that really makes a judgement about them." Have you ever tried altering your perception of people around you rather than always getting offended by their light hearted jokes? Not everyone is as ghamandi and stuck up as you percieve them to be. ((apologies to all people who have been going.. "what the hell is this girl saying??")) Thanks again to the rest of you. :) color of strife, i guess thats the ending.. I have nuthing more to write about 'her.'