i didn't have a girlfriend and my family looked for girls for me (many actually) and i continuosly rejected all. then i had girl friends (several times), then break ups.. then girl friend etc. then last summer they looked for one more girl, i even talked her on the phone and all that. but still i didn't want to get married. now i don't have girlfriend, and my family started talking with other families. i have told my family strictly that i am not ready to get married now, so cut that crap. perhaps because i just don't want to, at the moment. i have too many things to take care of before i am ready to move on with a married life, because once i get married, i want to retire from work, and that is nor far and i am still young. i think the best way is to talk with your family if you are not ready to get married. if they insist then talk to the girl open heartedly and tell her what you really feel. Just don't lie. there are two ways - the hard way and the easy way. harder ways are more fun.. so enjoy the hard way...