i think it is like this... there are millions who die each day and each moment... millions of kids are hungry and die.. peple die in wars... it is not really a big deal... but when it comes to someone who means something to you.. your loved ones or your loved ones' loved ones, or someone whom/what you find intriguiging .. then it is a big deal... enormously very big deal... the death of those kids in the us, was a big deal for me... i don't know them.. but it was quite intriguiging to me... for example.. when my grandfather died in the hospital holding my hands when he had his final heart beat.. it was very big deal for me... but it didn't mean anything to my next door neighbor... and it is okay... it's like this... if i can share a small moment of happiness or sadness with someone and they can feel good.. i better do it.. but i don't want to share.. then i should just leave them alone.. that way we won't hurt anyone...