Xena wrote: "I am not showing that I get asked out? hello? doesn't most ppl get that? It's no big deal. " ok xena i think u r doing the same thing as couple guys above are doing..which is assuming. i don't think these guys get that often so it is a big deal to them :p and i don't think u should get caught up with the word "proud". i think the word is actually used to describe the pain of rejection men go through rather than describing the girl's state of mind. if that make any sense? it's kinda like when they say "propose garne" which also basically means asking out / asking to be a gf (without really dating or anything). i know the first time i heard propose used by a guy talking about a gal, i thought he was talking about asking her to marry him but he just meant it as asking her out. so u see, don't get caught up in just that one word...not just nepali men but men in general say one thing and usually mean something else...i'm sure u konw that :p anyways to give u my input to your question...im no expert or anything but i guess with us nepali men, when we like a girl and decide to ask her out, we already make up our mind that not just she is the right one for me but i am the perfect one for her too. this is more in an innocent way than obsessive. so when guys r asking u out, they probably figured there is no way u would trun them down and when u do (and u have every right to choose your preference) they take the turn down way more seriously than men from other race. but hey i'm not speaking for every nepali man so this is just my own perspective :-)