Dear RG, That's the problem you were addressing. Your Thread needed the answer, WHY ? Among the different issues I mentioned above, the fourth one, the NEGATIVE EMOTION should be the one that distracts parents making them to think out of the box. Because of the language problem, they have lots of problems with fellow KHAIRES, which they dont' want to repeat with their kids. But, a kid who grows up in USA will easily adopt american culture. Parents dont need to worry about that instead they should teach them Nepali Culture as well as other family values. They should understand why America is LAND OF OPPORTUNIY? Why America holds the diversity-concept? Why America is America? Sadly, We have forgotten or haven't understood the fact. So,Parents fail to teach their kids the culture. I mentioned ECONOMICAL issues above because if a family has a good source of income they could socialize. Example, Indians - both husband/wife earns loads of money. Most of them are business people. In our case, according to my observations, few nepali couple hold such status in USA. If a family has low income, definitely they won't be able to socialize adequately, since they have to work long hours to hold the family. Also I have seen,Nepali families spending their free time drinking & partying than needed. That gives just the headaches and hangover. Indians families, when parting, talk about promoting business, teaching culture to their kids. At least they try. In our case, during parties, I have observed, Nepali parents, letting their under age kids to watch RATED- R movies and parents drowned into the pleasure of LIQUORS. These factors have to do a lot why U.S born kids are not into Nepali culture. It's not a kid but the parent who is not or not willing to provide the culture. Most importantly, we all should be thinking about these issues beforehand. For that we should understand: -Why America? - eg. diversity - opportunities that could be grabbed here. -What Am I doing to improve my life quality? -Am I doing the right thing? Always need to analyze and self monitor one self. HUSBAND/WIFE must be good friends and very cooperative to each other so to move up the ladder of success. They should rememeber driniking beers and whisky doesn't mean the form of socialization or modernization. The action of parents impact on KIDS. Therefore, it's the job of those respective parents to mold the culture of their kid properly. It was a nice topic to discuss about. This response of mine is getting longer; a book could be written in this topic. So I would like to say Thank You RG for bringing the issue.