can men really be friends with women? without ever falling for them at some point? i mean, it doesn't have to be, "oh i LOVE this woman." just something like, you know, "how would it be to be this woman?" from my experience, ever since puberty, that seems like an impossibility. it doesn't matter what the characteristics of the girls are - tall, short, brown, white, blonde, brunette, ugly, cute, beautiful, skinny, fat. ok, maybe age does matter a little bit. in the majority (>50%) of cases, the first thing i do when i meet a (unknown) girl is assess how good-looking/hot she is and you know think about how would it be to be with this girl. for most of the remaining cases, such thought seems to crop up eventually in subsequent meetings. ok, i don't really always dive into how would sex be, more like how would it be to be with this girl. but, yeah, sex does feature quite regularly. now, don't get me wrong. i have plenty of female friends. a lot of very good ones. i have tried to make a move on a few. nothing came of it but we're still friends. with some, something happened for sometime. and then it went back to the friendship mode. while with some, the girls just went completely nuts and we never spoke again. with the majority though, i just hold back and soon enough i find one thing or the other in the girl to convince myself that i don't want to be with her - but friendship is fine. it always is. am i being too honest or am i just plain weird? i dunno.