Prajatantra Ji, I agree with you. Kissing, oral sex, self sex, unnatural sex, all are sex. All of them produce same type of pleasent sensations. If the story of those catholic girls is true, they are not virgin. Virginity is not important, important is to refrain from sexual misconduct. People always try to cheat themselves. They try to manipulate the reality in their favor. This is the weakest point. How people do that I will illustrate through an example. Here is a very old story, you will enjoy it. Donation is excellent. In our tradition and most of the traditions of the world, donation is considered one of the most pious acts. Long long ago, a group of Indian merchents were returning to their home from Lanka via boat with commodities. They came across a Hurricane and scared to death. They started to make promises to their deities, if they got saved they would do some wholesome things. One of them had a unique house in the city, which was most beautiful, and very expensive. He spoke out " Deities if I get saved form this hurricane, I will sell my beautiful house and donate all the money, I sware." To the surprise of all of them, the hurricane stopped and they arrived home safely. When they arrived home, they started to fulfill their promisses. Everybody were looking at him, whether he would be able to donate his beautiful house. He had biggest attachement to his house/wealth, however, he had to fulfill his promise as well. What he did was he decleared that anybody whoever would boy his house must buy a cat. He put the price of the house as one gold coin where as that of the cat as one Lakh gold coins. The house worthed one Lakh one god coins and somebody bought it. This guy donated one gold coin which was the price of the house, and kept one Lakh god coin which was the price of the cat.