Pakhey - Since you addressed me in your response I feel both humbled by the fact and obliged to respond to your comments. One thing comes across pretty obvious to me : we have very different views of how we look at a situation like this. I simply think calling someone by their caste, if they don't like it, is wrong. Whether it is a Limbu calling someone a "Bahun" or a Chettri calling someone a "Bhote" or a Newar calling someone a "Marsya" or a Bahun calling someone a "Jyapu" - as long as the person being called by the name doesn't like it, *it is wrong* and needs to be addressed. Where I am willing to concede ground to you is if the person being called by their caste doesn't mind, and if it is truly acceptable to them(which I highly doubt) , then that's another story. But why any person with dignity and pride in themselves, their parents and families, will want to be called as such is questionable. I feel that in order to make someone acceptable to being called by names they don't like, there must either be extreme peer pressure on the person or a total lack of self confidence in himself or herself . This is true whether the name calling is based on their caste or is any other name they dont like . We obviously have different ways of responding to situations like this and it is interesting to read your perspective. In my opinion the worst thing anyone can do in a situation like this is to do nothing and sit back and accept others defining who you are and refering to you as per their convenience. That, in my judgement, would be immoral and self defeating. So my advise once again is, it doesn't matter what your caste is, if you dont like being called by it, confront the person who is calling you with that name and tell them how you feel. Needless to say I trust people will excercise their best judgement when choosing the manner and tone of the conversation.