Pagli I really appreciate the way of expressing dissatifaction without bad words in Sajha. Its quite obvious that being a monglian guy you have some sort of moral support to mongolian type people. Man is like that person, they have some sort of analysis to every person within their mind. One thing is really surprising calling bhote to chinese/japanes and even their son ( while making mess). It is natural to call chinese/japnese bhote because of their mongolian type (comparing their physical structre to the people in tibet area). Also it is quite natural to call their son bhote while making mess because people from tibet area take less care about cleanliness ( its due to less water avialable and cold weather in their area - so they dont wash cloth for a long time, dont take shower for a long time, even dont wash their dishes for a long time ). But using the same word bhote to both person - mongolian face people/ mess making son is not a good choice of word. I can accept that bhote referring to their mess making son is due to limited present knowledge. In my village if some one is dirty people scold their son saying bhote. But in US referring son bhote is different, they should take care of others ( as some one can critic in their privite place - like called newar behind them or bahun behind them - since we dont like calling by caste ). Also they can say bhote to japenese/chinese but not in the place that hurts people ( at least not front of you ). So my conclusion is bhote word referring some nationals ( here in US) and mess making son is a bad choice of word and little respect to others. Also you are their friend - they should take care of you ( anyone) what they speak may hurt. So tell them politely bhote word hurts you. ( just a funny example - my friend is newar and he says ' क्या यार मलाइ त भोटे मन पर्छ आफु पनि भोटे जस्तै देखिन्छु ( and he likes japanese/chinese chicks)'