the thing with having your heart broken is that, no matter how much the other person tries to explain what they are feeling and why they need to move on, it almost never makes sense to the person whose heart is being broken. you are just left there, struggling for even the slightest piece of understanding. and then, there is the conflict between wanting to let go and wanting to hold on....how to keep that person's memory alive in you, while not letting it destroy you....how to celebrate the time you had together without letting it eliminate other possibilities from your future. i think it's a good thing to mourn the end of a relationship- after all, it is a form of loss. and it's necessary to reflect on that loss before you can move on. i say this as i struggle with it too.... testdirector, i liked your post. but i am wondering what is lost if you lose love. is this a fill in the blank?! perhaps that would be the best advice for veekas? to fill in the blank. sure, we can all offer advice from our own experiences, but when it comes down to it, he knows himself and he will know what makes sense to HIM. he will know what to do, what HIS right answer is, as what works for one person does not necessarily work for another. and indi dai, ba-baa, seven times?!?! what's that saying- "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me...." aba ta, "fool me seven times, shame on _________" ?! la ta, fill in the blank, hai! (;-D)