Chameli There is no right answer to your questions because everyone is different. You cannot hope to become a person that will be liked/appreciated by everyone. Some guys like their wives to stay home and be a housewife. Some want them to work. There is no right way to be in order to have a good relationship with someone. It always helps if you are a nice person, caring, loving, pretty and smart. But then again some guys might not like a smart wife. So in the end it all boils down to you finding a person that loves you for who you are, and someone who you get to love for who he is. Then BINGO!