Had been a few days since I had browsed through the posts in sajha. I really did not even read through all of this thread.... it just got too long, BUT I am assuming that the basic idea it is trying to convey is "WHY DO NEPALI WOMEN GO WITH MEN OF OTHER NATIONALITY". Correct me if I am wrong. This is so weird and amazing. I mean come on arent there enough Nepali men who date people from other nationality? There are people from all around the world dating and mixing with one another, but when Nepali women do it, there are questions raised. I mean how dumb can it get? Personally I have never and will NOT date people from other nationality, the reason??-- I would rather speak with MY GUY in my own mother tongue, and enjoy the same food taste and other small things in life that realy dont count. BUT I have had cousins and friends date and marry people from other nationality and HEY... as long as they are happy nothing else matters. Marriage and dating is all about your happiness, compatibility, a sense of belongingness and the "someone" who you can be yourself with and be totally comfortable with. NOWHERE does it say that marriage is the act of officially accepting a person from the opposite sex and SAME nationality as your partner. Its just what makes you happy! So instead of looking at the caste, creed and nationality.. one should just choose a person one thinks s/he would be happy with!