Anj, lets c . Captain O' Captain.. is 100% right. matrix as always is eloquent and [ i barely understand what matrix writes.. Rose is way above my understanding level (o: 2 complex] If a relationship is based on satiation of one individual's motive [ whatever it might be] then it is never gonna work and wounded ones are gonna be fear of commitment in future. <<<=== my 2 cents ============ but what do i know.....