Posted by: apc June 20, 2005
The Most Dangerous Mistakes You Prbably Make with women
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Here is something I found in my junk mail, I found it interesting: The Most Dangerous Mistakes You Prbably Make with women + Andd what to d o about it.." Here are the Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail with Women - and How to Make Sure You Avoid Every One of These Deadly Common Mistakes.. MISTAKE #1 Being TOo Much of A "NIce Guy" Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Of course you have. Just like me , I m sure you had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks" but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. Whats going on here? Its actually very simple.. Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you. I realiize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT.. but GET OVER IT. Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you will never have success with women that you want. MISTAKE #2 : Trying to "Convince Her to Like you" What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like .. but she is just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you.. YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! Never . ever. EVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". THink about it. IF a woman doesn't "feel it" for you how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "fesonable" with her? But we all do it. When a woman just isn't interested. we beg. plead.chase. Bad idea. One that will never work. MISTAKE # 3 Looking to Her FOR Approval or Permission In our desire to please women( which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them ..EVER. Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you. But if think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek thier approval. Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase around and want her approval annoy her.. MISTAKE #4 Trying to "Buy" Her Affection with Food and Gifts How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and her REJECT you for someone who disn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? If you are like me, then you've had it happen a LOT. Well guess what? It's only NATURAL when this happens.. That's right. I said NATURAL. WHen you do these things you send a clear message: "I don' thtink you will like me for who I am, so I am going to try to buy your atention and affection" Your good intentions usually come accross to women as over- compensation for insevruty and weak attempst at manipulation. That's right I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. MISTAKE # 5 Sharing " How you FEEl " too Early In the Relationship WIth Her. Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they got a LOT of attention from men. Most men don't realixe this, but attractive women are being appracged in one way or another ALL THE TIME. An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. THis translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. ANd guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men. That's right. They have EXPERIENCE. They know what to expect. And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "you know, I really, REALLY like you " after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you are just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast ... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back. Relax. There is a much better way.. MISTAKE # 6: Not "Getting " How much Attraction Works for Women WOmen are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. WHen a man sees a beautiful,young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on? Well, after studying this topiv for over five fulls now, I van tell you that women usually have their " attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than loks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and and unattravtive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. WOmen are more attracted to cerrtain qualities in men and they are attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman. But its not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this. And ANY guy can learn how.. MISTAKE # 7 : Thinking that it Takes MOney and Looks One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they even gotten started.. because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money .. or guys who are certain height or or gys who are certain age. And sure there are some women who are only interested in these things. But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personlity than his wallet or his looks. There are personlity traits that attract women like magnet.. And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one these guys. YOU DO NOT have to "settle' for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use you rbody language and communication correctly you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot sexy young woman. MISTAKE # 8 Giving Away All of you rPower to Women Earlier I mentioned that it is a mistake to look s a woman for approval or permission. Wll another similar tactic that a lot fuys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. Said differently guys try to get women to like them doing whatever the woman wants. Another bad idea.. Women are NEVER attracted to men they can walk all over... Women ar't atrated to Wussies!
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