wizkid and meghna, appreciate your opinions, but you did not expatiate why women would not like to share their lovers. gaule and nut, kudos for gaule for corroborating monogamy/andry with enough evidence. This is the only issue that distinguishes us with animals. Nut, thanks for supporting gaule. Virtual_reality, I would listen to my wife deadpan, as she listens to me. We care least what both of us do as long as we are honest to each other. mr/mrs resurrection, blondes are blokes, why don't you help me with my quandary. tauke, midlife crisis starts from 40 years onwards if the person is destined to lived 80 some years and the way i am at the moment, I might even reach 90 unless a drunk driver knocks me off my feet and this world too. So my midlife crisis starts at 45 dear. Guys, it was really interesting reading your replies, the best thing about sajha is, we share ideas that help us to see both sides of the story. Only fools accuse and impeach, wise people give reasons. Gaule had a point ahead the rest of you all because he seems to have had enough proof of what he is talking about. Hats off to him. But there was a flaw in my argument if it were to be related to the episode with janice. There was no way I could have fallen in love with her in mere two days. It was infatuation, attraction, obsession, passion, call it whatever you want, but certainly not love. Love does not happen at first sight. Infuation does. therefore, love at first sight is a long forbidden cliche'. It has usurped by a new maxim " Infatuation at first sight and love at millionth". The best answer to my question would have been. "John you jerk....that was not love...that was an attraction...and if you ever think of sharing your love with janice....may you burn in hell". resurrection was good in slandering...but he/she missed the point.