Gosh Johnji: Your story and posting made me wander for so long. It is so true. I think we fall in love with so many people in our lifetime and each one is so very unique and different and each experience is so different. Why is it ok to fall in love with one person at a time to different person but not two at the same time?? i can understand what you mean. I feel the same way. I feel love is not what we define or say either. SMOetimes you just enjoy being with some people, do not care about that person's any other things like whether he is married/single, what he does for a living or whether he is educated or not, etc But now a days, love is more a bargain. i mean if i have to fall in love with a guy then i will have to find out so many things like what is his education (is he better than me or not), can he earn more money that me, do we have the same caste, same religion and similar beliefs, etc, his social status and once we know everything matches then we say we are in love. for others there could be different criteria as well. I mean is that love??? can't you love someone because he/she is just a human being and you have this strange nice feeling for the person? why do we have to match so many criterias.... i have no clue and may be becasue we are such selfish beings