John_Galt ji - Interesting story. It is very refreshing to read "gaan thaan ka kura haru" on Kurakani that is not related to Nepali politics and that is devoid of visceral attacks on one another. Your narrative reminds me of a true story a friend recounted to me recently, a kind of a screwball comedy of the 1930s-40s except it is not a comedy. The story goes like this. A guy meets a girl, an exchange student, in high school. They are infatuated with each other but they could not pull off "Qayamat Se Qayamat Tak". They part after a semester and move on with their lives. Fast forward 15 years. The guy is done with grad school, is married, has a great job, and is working as an expat in an interesting country. Out of nowhere the guy bumps into his old flame at a house party in a foreign land. They had instant connection. The guy tells his wife about the incident, his wife goes ballistic and dumps him. The guy eventually marries his "true love". The guy, like you John_Galt, probably wanted to have both ways. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too. But the world does not allow that. I have a simple theory for that. I am a great fan of nature programs. After watching countless programs from Sir Richard Attenberg's Life on Earth to National Geographic Special to PBS-Nature, I have concluded that every species from protozoa to homo sapiens have two overriding concerns (1) food (2) procreation. Depending on the species' position in the evolutionary hierarchy, it employs different strategies. Females of certain species of birds allow any males that flirt with them to mate but they extricate the sperms of those they consider "not good enough". The reason, females want be friends with every male as a way to protect themselves. On the other hand, there are monogamous species like the Penguins. I always wonder how a penguin figures out who its mate is because to me every Penguin looks the same. In nature, polygamy and polyandry is probably the rule and monogamy is probably the exception. I think humans are no different i.e. inherently polygamous/polyandrous. But humans have moved beyond just food and sex. May be humans figured out sometime ago that competition for sex would create a Hobbesian world which threatened their own survival and thus devised a rule that they considered fair - one man, one woman. Like any rule, one man, one woman rule is meant to be broken. Certain communities allow polygamy such as Muslims and Mormons. Muslims because of the skewed sex ratio. Muslims men were decimated during the wars that led to the creation of the Caliphates [yeah, yeah, that was a long time ago]. Mormons because they wanted to regenerate quickly. Mormons survived their own version of the Holocaust during the 1840s ? if you visit Salt Lake City, you?ll hear all their heroic stories. I have heard of polyandry being practiced in certain parts of central Asia but not sure exactly where. For you John_Galt, the situation in Nepal does not look that "promising". According to the UN, the percent of Nepalese men peaked in 1980 at 51.25%. It was 51.06% in 2004 and is expected to steadily decline to 50.35% by 2050. In a country where there are more males than females, it is quite unfair for eligible ?huna khana sakne? writer-cum-tennis player like you to have more than their fair share, right :)