Let's go back when the current wife married the man with 3 children. A woman marries a widower with 3 children. Pure love? Or some mututal benefit? Not all marriages are based on mutual benefit, but I would like to say most marriages are based on mutual support (quoting a previous poster). This one seems like the man gets someone to take care of the kids, and the house, while the woman gets her legal status while she stays with him. If she was a smart woman, she would have tried to do something for her, like getting a permanent status and a job she can depend on if the husband left, or died. Yes it is really sad that the man cheated on her, and is willing to leave her. But how can we punish the man without hurting the woman. It is impossible. Living together for 10 years, she should have experienced something about the man and broought it up whenever something did not seem right. Sounds like she just tolerated a lot of things from him, knowing that he was screwing around, and at the end she has no choice but to sign the divorce papers.