Whoa! We are missing a few key in points here?. She is putting herself out enticement to manipulate, retaliate, expose or go into self-pity? Dunn we have any wake to attend to put across our sorrow for her loss?... And we nosy parker started finding his or her side of story.. Ahhhh!.. While she is the one going thru her self-defense, self-promotion n plain old survival of loneliness (like our fellow Nepalese women) n financial loss will start looking good?. For her, Its easier to muse on fear and opinions of people when dissuasion and confusion set in... I wud say to her?.Stop feeling responsible for everyone's feelings,.. Dunn overcompensate for divorce with destructive self-sacrifice? Walk forward in faith, love n hope?. Kick the spirit of grief shame in the teeth?Sure! .Easy said than done ?. Divorce can lead to many different poignant effects for the one left behind?. She wud be struggling to break her emotional bond to her significant others upon the end of her divorce process (if it happens) every day-in and day-out?.On the positive end, leaving him behind, will provide her with the attempt to break free from that flaky hold and move on risking curiosity, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.. When one person is abusive, jerk, a deadbeat, it is justifiable to end a marriage! When two people fuss n fight or both aren't blissful, a divorce may be the best thing for both?.. The whole ?it? factor for a divorce is clear to both people and have discipline of self respect ! Amen. So beautiful are Emily Dickinson?s quotes: If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; If I can ease one life the aching, Or cool one pain, Or Help one fainting robin Unto his next again, I shall not live in vain. Ashley!