Well I did not really read all the postings.. tara wanted to say something about this thread.... Well firstly... Marriage and relationships are all about compatibility.. and understanding.. and being with the person u think u want to spend your life and all your happiness with... And no where does it say that a person will stay happy with a person that is from the same nation or which is of the same caste... though the way people are brought up and the values that they have are probably in more resemblance with people of the same nation and sometimes the same caste... So what I am tryong to say here is.. if you think that you will be happy with a person that is from a different nationality then go ahead.. do what you think is right... your parents might resent it but later... they will agree with you.. because what they want is your happiness... Tara all this time I have had many cousins that got married to people that were from a different nation or castes and most of the time it did not work out. They always had their differences. There was always something that they did not agree on.. and in the end it was messy... And well also there were times when their values and stuff came in between... and normally in arrange marriages.. well believe it or not.. there is compatibility.. mostly the back ground is the same and also the values.. and well.. I have seen it work out more... So as the conclusion... what I think is that though people should not hold back on people just because they are from a different caste or country... tara normally... you get along with people who are more similar to you and your values... and if someone who is from a different caste or nation works out for you.. then well and good!!