Hey Ruina, I see ur concern. I have maa done a long time back. Honestly, it does hurt a lil bit, not while u?re getting it done but afterwards. Esp. when u sit up and down, work out, and sleep (depends if u sleep face down). After piercing, u?ll have to contd cleaning the area for a month or so; they?ll give u ointment and direction as well. I think all the pain is worth taking, it feels good after u get it done. Also keep u motivated to keep ur tommy flat. About parents concern, it?s not like u?re going to be showing it off when u?re parents are around. So don?t worry abt it till they find out . Hehe?. Good luck?.