Birkhey dai... your story really is sad... And I agree with Ardent and Rose sis in some parts. I mean truth is very important in any type of relationship and so is communication.. I learned that the hard way!! I thought action was speaking what I was trying to tell him... but... I wish I had told him what I felt when there was time to make things right... but I did not.. I wanted him to know but I did not want to tell him.. Dun make the same mistake. Truth is very important.. You should have told her everythin in the first place. Girls feel special when u trust them enuff and involve them in ur decisions. I would respect a guy who tells me a bitter truth rather than a guy who keeps things from me... And I know sometimes relationships change.. behavior changes and it hurts.. and I think that the girl thinks u are being too clingy..and as she doesnt know that u din take the offer she might even be thinking that u r askin too much from her. And it hurts to know that someone wud ask you to do something that u dun wanna do. Like she might be thinkin that u r askin so much outta her without thinking abt her studies.. and what did u do in return for her..?? does she KNOW anythin abt ur sacrifice..?? NO.. so she might think that u r being selfish. DOnt let this mis communication and misunderstanding destroy what u have. SOmetimes at times like this the gal might have a different interpretation of what u r tryin to say..so it might be that u are tryin to tel her something and she understands somethin else... has happened to me too.. tara i din have the time to set things rights.. time to tell him that i meant something else... and the of course there was my ego too!! SO what u shud do now.. is tell her everything... sit down with her.. make her understand and explain.and dun bring ego in between thats a BIG no-no!!.. and if she really does love you... there is no doubt that she will understand and all will be sorted out!! all the best!!:) PS: show her u care and love her.. show her u think abt her rather than thinkin only abt u selfish needs. Dun make her feel like u r forcing her because of YOUR OWN EMOTIONS.. give her the optionas and let her choose. Her decision will tell you her feelings.