Rhythem and rose maiya haru... ok i agree that its unreal and unfair to take wife as puppet...i beleive that they should b career oriented and smart. I don't mind them having male friends as long as they know the distance between good friends and flirt. U know what...what is most problem in gals...when they get close to guys..they start comparing with their bfs...and start deviating from their track and get emotionally attached to so called friend and the result is...disaster in relationship... U should agree like gals are possessive boys do have some such habbits that there are certains things they don't want their gf/wife does with other guys.. coz gals are emotionally weak so they are very vulnerable in relations...so its better for them not to get close with other guys once they are in relation for the good sake... and u know what...we guys...they are very oppertunist..on one side their will be sufferef ( the bf of the gal) and at the same time at the other side their will be a big oppertunist ( the friend of that gal with whom c is getting attached)...he will think..ok "moj garna pairakheko cha..aba bf vayeko kt sanga afu serious hunay kura vayena..moj garam ani bahana banayera chadi dium" ani ... tell me who will be at lost at the end...the same gal hoina...???c will loose her old relationship and c will loose new one for which c broke old...and after that ...whenever c goes into relationship...guys will think like..."oh c already had 2 bfs..and breakups...ok this gal is not of serious type...so just have fun and leave..." then even gal start coming into track and thinkin seriuosly because of her past impression..c can never get into it...ani u know for gals..the most precious thing is her impression on others about relationship...once that is gone...hard to raise that back aagain... after 2-3 breakups..even gal make into relationship..whenever c had discussion/problem in her relationship..guys will always take out that point showing her less ability to handle relation well...so who is at loss????????? I agree that most of the time..gals are serious c might have thought geting more love n care while leaving old bf and going for new one...but at that time she doesn't think all these thing and c doesn't thin boys are oppertunist and he might be showin all care just to take advantage ...but whatever the reason is ..who is at the loss?????? so don't u think that after u r in relation...for gals...its better not to be very close with male friends...friends can be there but not too close... and i beleif that once u r in relation...(as both of u r too gals...i suppose) take my advice..never start sharing ur personal things/ur thoughts/ur problems of life n relation..with another guy whom u consider as close friend..that will 200% wreck ur relation...coz once u find another guy with whom u feel soothed when u need to talk then u will definately start thinking negative about the guy u have and start comparing..and once u start doing that ....i bet..u surely are waiting for DISASTER and later..as i have said..u can only repent...saying..."oh that guy loved me so much..but i lost it and i can never get a guy who loves me like that..." a keta ho, ho ki hoina vana ta....