Chaakman wrote: "And thats you [Ashu] included dear...don't forget your own soap opera of THE GRUDGE OF BOSTON." **** Ashu's response: You will not have known this, of course; but by saying those words above, I was actually hoping that someone like you would bring this old story up. You walked right into my anticipation, and I thank you. And this is what I love about being myself and having an open, frank conversation in a public domain like Sajha. So many things can be cleared up so fast. Now to address your concern: I hereby take a great pleasure in informing you and all, that since 2002, I have this personal rule in place for myself that says that a STATUTE of LIMITS on grudges -- personal or professional -- can only be for a maximum of TWO calendar years. Anything more would be simply toxic and counter-productive, and nobody needs that. After those two years, well, life moves on . . .people change, things change, circumstances change and even interests change. Viewed this way, your reference to this ancient story may hold a great significance for people like you who seem forever stuck in the past and are unable to move on, but, rest assured that they, by my own choice, hold NO significance in my life anymore. So that's that. That said, as a matter of amateur pyschology research, I do remain morbidly fascinated by the way some Nepalis continue to hold bitterest grudges against others till the day they die. :-) oohi ashu