Neurologist, duty is one things feelings are another. You are assuming Lights88 is a guy. Let’s assume for a second she is a woman. As a buhari, in a patriarchal society (as you pointed out), it will be hard for her to live with her in laws forever. Now let’s assume the original poster is a guy. As a jwai it will be a little bit easier for him, same reason, patriarchal society. But in the long run it may still be hard for him even though he may not mention as much or do some kind of drama if it was the former situation.

In the end, everyone suffers. The son or daughter trying to maintain peace or keep everyone happy. The son in law or daughter in law, wondering when this will end. And mostly the parents, feeling unwanted.

So the best thing to do is rotate the parents and in laws, a few months or a year so it is fair to everyone involved.