maybe you always found the wrong gurl, i don't think everyone leaves their loved one for someone who's already settled. btw i'm saying loved one, not just bf or gf, if there's love i don't think anyone can just leave so easily. and i think nowadays girls are independent, they don't always look for 'a settled one', i think we can do enough by ourselves. talking about seriousness? read all the previous posts in other threads you shd find the answer. it depends upon a person, can't differentiate between guy and gurl on who's serious and who's not.