Why do guys mistake yr goodness for something else? I mean being nice, doesnt mean you like someone that way right? Gurls u hear me on this? Am I the only one always getting this..and guys, temme why you do this?

kaly...dun worry ur not the only one always gettn this..im assuming here hehe but then again i think me assumptions might be pretty right this time(for the 1st time) re kya ;oP hehe....

and since i fall into the guy category ...well u were lookn for an opinion hoina?so here it is...(too late to regret now!!!u asked!!and i will type!!!!!WOOHOOOO!!!hehe)and oh im speakn for mself so hehe dun take it others from me gender thinks and feels the same hai..i dun wanna take that huge responsibility of representing me gender re kya ;oP hehe

1st things 1st..u all are women :oD..and we all are men :oD..(well one day we all will rightfully grow up to be a woman or a man...given enuf time and if our mind doesnt screw up too much and wander away from our wat we were born as ;oP hehe)...and as they say(and wont stop saying..hehe) Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars ...guess thats how it is..thats how we are..and thts how it is going to be..(forever?:o| well hopefully we change a bit ..but lookn at it..im sure no one wanna change that much hehe..we are pretty happy with being who we are hoina?bloody genderist!:@ ;oP hehe)

dunno if the Venusians realises they do create a lot of 'signals' that we Martians might mistake for smthing else hehe..so if we Martians do get a bit 'brave'..to check if the 'signals' we 'see' and 'read' is wat we might think it is..well yap..it gets frustrating to both the genders..when one wasnt even gving such 'signals' hoina?...but well hopefully venusians being who they are(they always seem so nice and good and always so understanding to us martians but of cos smtimes they just 'erupt' without warning :o| hehe) will clarify to the martian they were 'conjuring' those signals themselves hehe..and yap one thing to note here..dun take MERCY!!NO PRISONERS!!!hehehe(venusians are pretty too kind if u ask me ;oP hehe)..martians want it straight from the horses mouth ke ;o)(well i do i think ;oP hehe)and nah..dun need to hee haw ;oP watever that is hehe...oh oh..tho its not proven i think we martians have a pretty thick skull..:o| or some invisible thickness there :o| so thats why im sayn NO MERCY!!!it does take some effort to penetrate into the skull...well im sure u know wat i mean..esp with ur experiences with us Martians ;oP hehe..

and yap after penetrating our skulls...pls dun forget to clarify and ask(we martians are weird :o| ..smtimes..wat smtimes..most of the time bhaney!:@ ... we dun tell if we are not asked ;oP hehe...but with the coaxing power of the Venusians im sure u all can coax it out from us ;o) hehe)..ask us wat made us conjure those 'signals' from ur Venusian sides...cos of cos u dun wanna repeat the same 'mistakes' with another Martian hoina?and more frustrations again?;oP hehe..well maybe its a Venusian trait..which u might never be able to change about urself ;oP..but it be good to know...what we Martians sees hoina?what u all 'show' to us that makes us to think wishfully ;oP hehe..

yap u all have to ask :oS..cos martians are too thick skulled ke :oS..hopefully the venusians arent thick skulled too ..if not gawd bless us re kya ;oP hehe...well ur already askn here...so yap there is hope for us all!!!WOOHOOO!!;oP hehe...

in the end..if the 'solution' (if there is any solution ;op hehe) is..that u have to stop being that nice to everyone :oS...well guess wat needs to be done has to be done :oS...yap pretty feels shit to try and control being oneself hoina?:oS..esp when u have to stop being nice..cos that nicess is mistaken for smthing else :oS...look at me...i feel guilty typing here...cos i think its not nice to waste database space..save the earth ke!!!;oP hehe cos no way are we ever gonna survive on mars!!!!!hehe..(im losing it hehe..well some of u might think i already lost it..but i like to beg to differ re kya ;oP hehe). but yet i cant stop typing :oS..

anyways well..we are who we are...seems like ur head is spinnin...hopefully it be less...seriously these 2 genders exist to spin each other head ho ki kayho?:o| if thats the case..dyam :o| no wonder we are goin to the 'other' side ;oP hehe...

anyways it takes 2 to tango ;oP...so good luck there..its all about tryn to find the balance hoina?:o| and if ur frens thot it that way..it was a compliment ;o)..clarify it quick and good luck wit that ;o)...remember NO MERCY!!!hehe..we guys a ruff and tuff re kya ;oP..we can take it duh!!!;oP hehe...NO MERCy!!!if not dun blame anyone if u might get more headaches later ;oP hehe...and if it seems its not gettn into them..sheesh it means u are still being nice re kya ;oP hehe....

and may gawd bless us Guys!!!hehehe..hami jasto simple creatures..sheesh!!and still dare to ask us why we do this re?:o|

whos passing the goodness bhaney!!!:o| ..stop showering goodness to us!!!!!save us from ourselves!!!!Stop the goodness!!!!!!dun pass us so much ke..DUH!!!we didnt start it!!!;oP ..yah yah typical us not takin the blame ;oP hehe...

anyways good luck :oD...but u wanna know smthing?hehehe...in some ways..feel like thankn that fren of urs wahahahaa..cos well u gettn tension out of all this hoina?wahahahaaa..well urghh duh!!its not like i like to see the other gender gettn their head spun!!but sacchi bhaney!!yo keti haru ke ho bhaney :o|!!!:@:@:@ ..me frens of the other gender..how many times i always try to explain..dun say this or dun do that..cos it makes me head spin!!!tara they do it more :o| sacchi bhaney!!!its not me fault i unintentionally spin their head ;oP hehe...i try not too hyaa :oS...but they always spin me head!!tho i tell them actually plead with them!!!!!arggghhh!!!so hehe urghh subconciously when i see the other gender gettn tension..feels good in some wierd ways :o|

wat have i become?:o| wat have they made me?:o| ketis!!!arghhhhhhhhh!!!kick them to mars bhaney!!!!:@:@(ok if that really happens i know the guys are gonna bang me arse wahahaahah ;oP...sheesh smthings are better not wished hoina?;oP hehe)and oh dun worry..wat goes around comes around :o| me head is spinnin right now..cos dyam!!I need to go and study and typing here is just makin me head ring more :o| ...so hehe dun wish for more head spinnin to me hai :oS...mero frens are there to do that for me :oS...

good luck to u and well he is ur fren and well if frenship between u and him means anything to both of u.(2 to tango hoina ;o)..)im sure both of u will come out better from this situation :oD....Do clarify with him hehe..and yap NO MERCY to him ;oP hehe...stop being a keti for once sheesh!!;oP hehe...oops i meant to type..stop being too NICE..(dunno wat happened and i typed that instead :o| ;oP hehe..)for his sake duh!!;oP hehe for frenship!!!!heheheehe...

hah dunno wat i typed...so dun mind me re kya :o| hehe...(i lost it again :oS hehe)

good day and yap long live frenship..watever ;oP hehe...and bless our heads :o| hehe..

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I think our hero said it all. Anyways don't worry about such things it happens everywhere and this doesn't only go for guys but also girls. I myself have had to deal with this many times (in my case more with women) but oh well, have stopped caring, i am what i am and if someone happens to misinterpret not my problem, and the worst part is when they don't know you. If someone happens to show their jealousy then know that you have acheived something in your life.;) Feel proud of it. And like danny said, take it as a compliment, you are getting attention for free. :D Just expect the man/woman you will/or be with to understand this, about the rest there will be people who wil take care of it. keep smiling, i know its easy to say but hard to do but not when you have someone who can ease you.

You know that song...Phool ko aankha ma phoolai sansara, kada ko aankha ma kadai sansara?..and thats the universal truth.

Yep, Kaly. U R right. It's totally disgusting. What I hate is being fooled. First they pretend like they are your friends and you think they are interested in only friendship..and then U become friendly. Paachi U realize that they never intended to have only friendship...that makes me real mad. Malai ullu baanaiyo bhanera. Oh well, I guess we have to deal with it. We can't always knock their heads all the time and say 'what the hell were you thinking?'

And danny boi...I didn't read your novel up there. So no comments to you there. Can't you write something straight to the point without taauko ghumaaning? hehe! :P

Hats off to Anon. :) Good to see you doing your 'bits' in Sajha as ever! Yes, I am back! For my sins.

This post was straight from the best seller - Venus and Men are from Mars eh! :)

Keep on hammering away at your keyboard! :))

Kaly,

Just wqanted to ask couple questions,

Were u always clear and honest from your side ?
Are you sure u dint misinterpret him ?

Coz reality may not always be the way u think

I don't really understand what to you mean by "something else"?

If someone loves you or likes you than you should be greatful coz not all are so lucky.

If you don't like it that tell him how you feel about him, he might understand.

If "something else" is something physical than I feel sorry for those distort pouvert.

Bottom line, if you think this guy is cool than go for it.

Life is complicated, people look for relationship to make it simple.

Very Funny!

"Life is complicated, people look for relationship to make it simple."

-->> Talk about having poison to cure insomnia. But hey, maybe. :)


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In response to your last question Kaly4nia:

I have never done that so I would not know. Sorry! It appears stereotyping is the 'in' thing of late.
But I wish you good.

IndisGuise:)

Well there are several times when people do mistake your friendship for something else and I know that it can get pretty annoying BUT the reality is that the fault does not solely lie on the other person. I am not saying that it is your fault either. I know that some people are just lousy pain in the butt and assume what they want to and when you tell them the reality they get ticked off. Those people are just stupid BUT when a person like someone then they start noticing that person more.

The normal and simple gestures that they do not notice in other people; they start noticing in you. And their brain really wants them to believe that u like them to..s o thats what happens. Sometimes your friendliness can also be mistaken for a lot of things too. If you smile at them then they think they saw this glitter in your eyes that *might* suggest something different. We all want to believe that we are special and things will turn out the way we want it so we go on assuming what we want. Sometimes they come out the way we want and sometimes they dont. hey! That does sorta explain your question.. though in a psychological way.. HAHA...

And my advice to you would be try to explain it was nuthin as such and if they still dont understand.. WHO CARES? u tried to tell them!! just ignore them and after sometime they wont bother you anymore.

Telling the truth wont hurt. Just get to the point if you dislike or wanna get rid o f someone just say it... YOU FOOL I DON"T LIKE YOU IN SUCH MANNER. F OFF. He/she will get the point. One way or other it had to hurt someday make it quick before it gets ...................................

Hey Y'all. Thanks for all ya comments. I really appreciate it. Anonymous, dang you are funny and did have a good point there.
Soonil- by something else, I meant he liking me not as a fren but the other way. Hope u got it. I knw my limits, so I just dont lead the person in a wrong way and it is wrong to do that too. Obv, if I feel I like him surely would let him knw by giving him some kinda signals, you knw. My personal opinion -two frenz of opp sex getting together is perfect, cuz u knw the person well. But like Anon said it takes 2 to tango..if thats not possible its not going any further u knw. Anywho....thanks a bunch for all ya comments. Have a great weekend!!!

kaly ..dang!!u dunno gal(or woman?or lady sounds better?let me know wat u prefer re kya ;oP hehe it be nice to know the other person choice ni ;o)...too much 'contact' with the other kind I TELL U!!!...not contact in that way hai ;oP hehe...sheesh!!u know wat i mean ;oP hehe)

and as i was sayn...u dunno how much me appreaciate that u did see one point!!!one good point in me meaningless rambling hehe...seriously me not kiddn u :o|....i mean one side of me appreciates that someone(u) did notice a point(who cares good or bad!!..cos i didnt notice any when i was typing!!!!it feels good to noticed doesnt it?DUH!!! hehe)...and another side is just sayn.."SHEESH!!only one point!!only one tiny winy point!!who cares good or bad!!just one point!!!!!!dyam!!" ;oP hehe...oh well thats how we are hoina?never 'satisfied' tho in some ways we are 'satisfied' hehe...

and like me rythm sis said..(dyam shes making me 'proud' re kya ;oP hehe)..well just try to explain/clarify :oD...but if that doesnt seem to be 'working' well dun put too much tension on urself..cos u know u did ur try ur best ;o)..and smtimes ones best isnt good enuf hoina?:oS...plus well duh!!u r who u r!!(dyam u all VENUSIANS!!!! oops..dun mind that..time to time some rage of the past creeps out slowly ke :o(....im gettn better in controlln me 'rage' ..so dun mind me ;o) hehe duh!me being me ke..Martians!!ARGHHH!!!:@ and oh to me fellow Martians..im happy being me hai..like u all..in case that made u all think i was siding with the other 'side' ;oP hehe..katti explain garnu parcha ho :o| zindagi ni explanations gardai...explanations khojdai bitauney ho?urghh...cos smthings cant be ever explained hoina?:oS..well depends on the size of the brain they said..tara well some have pea brains..can u blame them?;oP hehe...)

anyways just wanted to say... good luck to u and to ur fren :oD....hate to see frenships gettn 'torned' apart..but oh well time will tell all hoina?:oD...watever will be will be :oD...and dyam that 'tango' is making a tune come into me head..so dun mind me hai ;o)...(me knows u got a mind..dun need to show it to me ;oP hehe)...me now type it :oD...

picked up umbrella...put on a bowler!!
lookd in the mirror..ready for tango!

i foned a taxi..for me and maxine
she looked fantastic ;o) hehe
we danced the tango!!!
whoaa!!whoaa!!we danced the tango!!

we drank champagne..we dance again ;o)
we had laughter..and then after..
face to to face..we danced the tango!!
cheek to cheek..we danced the tango!!!
whoa!!whoaa!!!we danced the tango!!

-the adicts

love that band :oD....and dyam still search for that bowler hat hehe..got a thing for that hat ke :oD (yap me weird ;oP heh..but duh!!me not alone..another fren too askn me to find that hat too hehe...well we are wat our frens are hoina?yap they did it to me :o(..if not once i was so 'sane' !!duh!!;oP hehe)...enuf of rambling hehe..cos duh!!no point!!!dun try to seach for any points here!!!cos this time im sure i didnt put any by mistake!!sheesh u think i give anything for free?dream on!!;oP hehehe...

and dyam we were all kicked out from the library a while ago..cos dyam fire alarm!!its a sign i tell u!!a sign telln me to stop typing!!!!cos then was midst of typing this ke ;oP hehe...duh!!!so i better heed the 'sign' ..hopefully me am correctly seeing and reading the 'sign' :o| if not...oh well..Mars here we come!!!!!!:oD hehee...

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Sandhurst bro nice to see u :oD...and nah didnt read that book...maybe did browse thru during one of those good old days ..but well 'boredom' does make u do weird weird things hoina?;oP hehe...hope ur 'break' was good tho the UK weather doesnt permit much..except to enjoy ur mocha and other indoor 'activities' (and hey ppl!!im not refering to that hai!:@ sheesh katti explain garnu parcha!;oP hehe)....and hopefully me can take a 'break' from here hehe...cos exam fever urghh :oS...cos after its done and over me knows...me wont have 'energy' for here hehe...well lets see re kya ;oP hehe..anyways good day and well if time permits..do blast ur keyboard ;o)..gently if u must ;o)...i know u want to ;o) hehe....and nah me dun take part in marathons so sheesh enuf of that word!:@ hehe...

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and Xena...duh!!!did i ask u to read?come to think of it..did i ever ask anyone to read?duh!!;oP hehe....sheesh u think me gonna write a 'novel' for u..just for u??dream on!!;oP ehehe...oops im already writing to u :o| arghhh!!!ketis!!!sheeesh!:@ ;oP hehe...ani ke danny sanny!:o| u intentionally tryn to spin me head!:@ hyaaa..:o( and to think i always try not to :oS...ironic world :oS...

and yap if i seemed bit over..dun mind me re kya ;oP..that kaly ko comment dhekda ta wah mero nhak esto thulo bhoyo..think more air went in and well duh!!floated for a while ke!!!too much air!!!and yes AIR FLOATS!!!;oP hehe..so sheesh dun blame me hai..i wasnt even tryn ;oP hehe.....

and notes!!here i come to bore u away!!!!:@ actually think its gonna work the other way around :oS..oh well wat goes around comes around..:oS..i shudnt have thot 'bad' thots for the notes :oS..serves me right!:@ ..i love u notes!!!love me too will u!!sheesh dun bore me that much will u!!!well duh!!was worth a try ;oP hehe...

good day all and good luck to watever u all need good luck in :oD...good luck to me :o| heheehe


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hey girl, what r u upset about then?

Look like you know what u r doing.

Nobody is perfect and never will be.

May be u want to make yourself feel better huh?

kaly4nia, this is just a tiny bity truth about life, Opposite attracts!

oh yah....just had to come back to say this again!!

GOOD LUCK TO US ALL!!!!!!!!
cos duh!!!the way it is hah!... both genders do exist!!!and until.. if ever one gender cease to exist...we need all the luck we can get hoina??;oP hehe....

so yap GOOD LUCK TO US ALL!!!!;o)....wishing a bit more of luck never hurts anyone does it?tho cant really be too sure if i wasnt bias and didnt wish one gender more luck that another(equality?hah!nice idea..but can anyone ever be equal?exactly 50/50?well me dunno cos ... am a bit bias ;oP hehe)...which gender did me wish more luck?thats for me to know!!and u all sheesh!!just wish to whichever gender urself and make it 'balance' up!!me am pretty pleased with meself thinkn even with me past experience..me did still wish one gender good luck!!duh!!;oP hehe..Live and let live!!!:oD hehehe...

and good luck to us all again!!hah ;oP


good day :oD..

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Anon,
Cheers mate for your post - brings smile to my face. As always. I trust that your exam prep is coming along fine and that you're now ready to tackle the beast. Aiming for a straight A? Why not - good luck.

About my golfing break. The first two days were fantactic. The rain and wind however battered the heck out of us in the concluding two days - so, the 'mocha' had to be good. Mocha aside, there was nothing included in the indoor 'activities' as you mention, except for a curry night. Oh, had some time chatting up the delectable lady who worked at the bar! :) My indoor activity eh! :)

Good day. Briefly saw Scarlett yesterday. Good luck again.
Carpe diem.

can men really be friends with women? without ever falling for them at some point? i mean, it doesn't have to be, "oh i LOVE this woman." just something like, you know, "how would it be to be this woman?"
from my experience, ever since puberty, that seems like an impossibility. it doesn't matter what the characteristics of the girls are - tall, short, brown, white, blonde, brunette, ugly, cute, beautiful, skinny, fat. ok, maybe age does matter a little bit. in the majority (>50%) of cases, the first thing i do when i meet a (unknown) girl is assess how good-looking/hot she is and you know think about how would it be to be with this girl. for most of the remaining cases, such thought seems to crop up eventually in subsequent meetings. ok, i don't really always dive into how would sex be, more like how would it be to be with this girl. but, yeah, sex does feature quite regularly.


now, don't get me wrong. i have plenty of female friends. a lot of very good ones. i have tried to make a move on a few. nothing came of it but we're still friends. with some, something happened for sometime. and then it went back to the friendship mode. while with some, the girls just went completely nuts and we never spoke again. with the majority though, i just hold back and soon enough i find one thing or the other in the girl to convince myself that i don't want to be with her - but friendship is fine. it always is.


am i being too honest or am i just plain weird? i dunno.

Dannyboy and Sandhurst, good to see you both again.Full blast, Danny is, while Sandhurst seems rstrained,sachi! I missed your posts, both of you. And what of Dannyboy not taking part in any marathon? What of this one? I read every bit of it, or tried at least.. makes utter sense.Re kya! hee hee... But do you really believe in alll that you stated above? Hmm... Personally, i have more female friends i count on rather than the male species.But hey, if you are planning on a night out with friends, its hardly ideal without male company.They do have this charming way of seeing things so very differently, compared to us wimmenfolk:P

And Kaly, while flirting is an art, there are times when the dimwitted ones of the other species do manage to misread signals. i for one, flirt outrageously with male babies and old tottering men and all in between.And if they should at any point feel I might be initiating anything more than friendship, i let them know,, very gently.I like keeping my friends.hee hee.. might be a lil uncomfy for a while.But u get over it. As do they, plsnty of fish in the sea philosophy , kya. :)

Gone with the wind....

Hiya Scarlett! Did you really have to spell it out for those poor "dimwits". I'm sure after you're quite through, they were rendered "witless"--- dim or not lights out for them! Oh you shameless flirt you! :P

Lahure babe... I'd heard London ko mausam and Sanhurst ko "coffee chats" were both unpredictable--anywhere from mild-moderate-stormy-hot-sweltering . No matter, Ladies, don't leave home without one. A sturdy umbrella!!!

Hey tired, btw I dun think u are weird but yes u are being real honest here. Thanks for that. Like I said earlier, its great when frenz of opp get into a relationship thingy, but it should be mutual. It gets kinda weird, if its only one sided and things could get worse by either losing the friendship you had or not being able to get back to the same fren you once had...feel me?

Hi Scarlett, thanks for yr adice too. I for sure knw flirting is an art, but me dont think good at it. It gets kinda weird, when friendliness is mistaken since flirting is something different...I am sorry btw that I included "guys"(some ppl made me realize) here in this topic..it should have been some guys..hehe. But tired was being real honest and did own up to this fact. I just guess, this is how its always gonna be huh?