11 years of marriage

16 years of knowing her

I'll give you any suggestion being a fellow Nepali. My relationship is working, but I can't say everyone will. I have seen many didn't make it. To me personally, it has nothing to do with culture, more about personality and the match. It all depends on you and her.

If you are a liberal, free minded, willing to learn new values and practices. If you come from a liberal family back in Nepal, if your family didn't force you into religion, if your family didn't care about cast and you grew up with that types of teaching, if majorities of your childhood friends were of different caste, if you understand that Nepal and Nepali is not the center of this planet, if you are willing to give up a little bit of Nepali companionship, if you don't mind eating pizza and burger once or twice a week instead of Dal Bhat, if you don't expect your wife to cook and make babies as her primary job, if your mom does not expect that her daughter in-law should speak nepali and come home and take care of elders with cooking and cleaning. And the most important part is - If you're willing to dig deeper into Americans, their values, culture, tradition and their general views of life and the world.

Then a big YES

If you grew up in a religious family, if your family is very conservative back in nepal, if you are a mama's boy (this is a very key factor) and you're afraid to do anything against her wishes, if you and your family think caste is important to socialize and marry within, if you childhood friends were your cousins and relatives, if you are the only son, if your mom is in a desperate need of a daughter in law to help out the elders in the village, if you cannot sleep a night without eating rice, if you cannot spend a month without a Nepali friend around you, if you think you know everything about America and its people from books and watching documentaries, if you think Isreal is the biggest enemy and Americans are helping them, if you expect your wife should cook and make babies, if you believe you can force your wife into having sex even when she is not in a mood. And the most important - if you are an arrogant prick who thinks Nepal is the most important country in this world, someone with no humility and humbleness.

Then a big NO