Just reading 3-4 guys' opinions have you giving up on your cause already? 

Not everyone treats their women like crap. The ones who do are the ones who end up Dev-Das-ing once she leaves him for another man. The strippers, whores, call girls, drugs/alcohol are just temporary substitutes. Money can't buy the real thang.

And I do agree, Sajha = Bokaland, and thats something you're not going to be able to change anytime soon. Persevere, and you will eventually be accepted :) (Theres a fun group around here called the BJP - Boka Janata Party, and most people, consciously/unconsciously are members ;)).

Cheers and welcome.