Meera - see the thing is you're not getting it correct!! I am saying that it's constructed in our mind. It's all made up. That's the society we live in. Just like i said i wouldn't like my husband cheating on me. I was brought up to think that way. I was pointing out that like you, i also am part of this whole made up thing. It's just how our culture and the rules are set up. I don't know if you still don't get it and think that I am saying it's okay!! Cause i am not saying whether it's okay or not, all I am saying is we're part of this thing that's all made up. We think that the rules set up are what we have to follow otherwise we would be doing something wrong. But the question is are the rules always right? Just like you think "marriage represents emotional and physical love to ONE person only" - how do you come up with something like this?? Maybe it's the culture you grew up in or maybe it's how you've always felt. No matter what it is, it's what someone following the rules would say. So, the thing I am trying to say is are the rules right?? like who made up the rules to say that it's right? And like i said before, DON'T get me wrong again, I also think just like you do. :) And I think you meant polyandry not polygrandy right? and I don’t think there is something as maternal polyandry because polyandry means when a wife has more than one husband. and when a man has more than one wife then it's called polygyny. Sorry i just had to point that out! :) by using polygamy as an example I was trying to show that the women is having sex with more than one person. Okay she is married. So, are you saying it's okay if polygamy exists in our society. I mean you would be fine with your husband having three other wives?? Exactly my point!!! see now you're probally mad at me and saying why would i want my husbands to have three other wives, i am the only one for him and all that. See that's the thing. Who said that was wrong? Why can't we be fine with that? I mean really why can't we just turn our society into something where everyone marries everyone and we can have sex with whoever we like!! - just reading this sentence everyone will think i am crazy right?? Exactly what I am trying to say, why are our brains and cultures and rules set up this way? Who made the rules to say what's right and what's not right? It just seems like no one wouldn’t understand if we did love more than one person and were intimate with more than one person. Cause we've been taught it's wrong. wow that was a lot of rambling. Hope you got what i meant this time around correctly!! :) Let me know if you are still confused! :) :D mR. hydE – From what I have just stated. I hope that you understand what I meant now!! Hopefully!! :) and Captain Haddock – hmm….I don’t know I am still upset after I got dumped!! I think you really should set a new date for lunch!! ;) :D