Maybe I didnt frame my questions properly as two of the fellow posters have assumed that I am asking IF i should marry this person or not. Isnt that what 'you are asking if you want to marry him or not' mean? That is far away from my question. There is no doubt about the marriage but the formal proposal might not have gone 'by the books'. And as I was having hard time determining if I let him down for good....I was wondering if you guys/girls could say anything about it.