you stayed with one Jhapali family, and you are generalizing the entire people of Jhapa? How is that fair to the other people of Jhapa who are not like that crooked person whom you stayed with?

ramas · Jul 31, 2015 8:21 AM

MEverest, username chaain testo garva garna laayako ko, ani soch chaai yesto ghatiyaa? What you are saying is pretty much like-- for example, you shared a room with a non-Nepali and f**k him up with rent and utilities bills, groceries, cleaning and sanitation, etc. If that guy goes on to generalize "all Nepalese are crooked", how would other Nepalese feel? Just because you had a bad experience with someone should, by no means, be a condition for you to generalize. Haamro desh already tukridai chha, yesto soch naraakhdai maa raamro ho jasto laagchha hai malaai. Jai Nepal!!

StatusPidit · Jul 31, 2015 8:50 AM

I appreciated the comment. But IT was based on my personal experience..

MEverest · Jul 31, 2015 9:05 AM

Damn Bro... Seriously?? Have you ever been to jhapa or just heard about it? Do you think only 2 ppl whom you had bad experience lives in entire Jhapa.. Sick bro Sick. Esto manche hamro des ma bhayepachi des bikas kasari hunchha. Hera na socheko. I am from Jhapa and i dont say KTM ko lalitpur ko or Banepa ko manche esto hunchha even though I have had lots of bad experience. Dont put your personnal thoughts into conclusion and start talking BS. "Jasta lai tyastai Dhida lai nistai" bhaneko suneko chhau? Timro case ma tyahi bhayeko huna sakchha.. or hola timlai thage holan but it doesnt mean you should start cursing whole Jhapali. No wonder you had bad experience Piece of Advise , Dont hurt others but if others do to you don't run away and start talking behind their back. Cheers.

mikel · Jul 31, 2015 9:32 AM

Plus You could not say why they are thug so you opend this thread so others Can add on you. Once upon a time I stayed with jhapali at Virginia. They were really bad people. I meant to say that they are thug because.. Shame on you bro...

mikel · Jul 31, 2015 9:34 AM

I don't know about cheapness but I heard they are very clever. There is saying: 100 kathmandu = 1 Jhapali and 100 Jhapali = 1 Syaanjaali :) Last edited: 31-Jul-15 11:20 AM

just4fun · Jul 31, 2015 11:19 AM

@sojoketo What makes you think Jhapali are Cunning and you are not??

Cycle · Jul 31, 2015 1:47 PM

A jhapali once told me that he was stayed with a guy in Virginia and he was surprised that the guy was even a bigger thug than jhapalis. What separated him from others was that the guy was idiot and acted as thug. It could be you.

mancini · Jul 31, 2015 3:16 PM

A jhapali once told me that he was stayed with a guy in Virginia and he was surprised that the guy was even a bigger thug than jhapalis. What separated him from others was that the guy was idiot and acted as thug. It could be you.

mancini · Jul 31, 2015 3:16 PM

To whom it may concern. They r crooked and sneaky.

MEverest · Jul 31, 2015 3:19 PM

To tell the truth, story would have accomplished if I ever had time to explain. I would love to put every bit of thought that I and [the guy] person who was I sharing room been through. It's shame to be Nepali.. Not only jhapali.. Jaya Nepal..

MEverest · Jul 31, 2015 3:42 PM

What district are you from? I'm pretty sure we all can recall at least one incident with folks from your place and start our generalization as well. And, let's see how you feel about it. Like I said before, our country is already heading toward separation, and folks like you talking trash about other fellow Nepalese and generalizing a person's behavior and tagging everyone from that place as "crooked and sneaky" will only add fuel to the burning fire.

StatusPidit · Jul 31, 2015 3:45 PM

Dude, if you are ashamed to be a Nepali, if you have no pride being a Nepali, STOP saying "Jaya Nepal". It just doesn't make sense.

StatusPidit · Jul 31, 2015 3:47 PM

Because I don't do what they do so why would I stop.

MEverest · Jul 31, 2015 3:49 PM

I do not favor or oppose generalization but want to bring up that it's related to stat. If you have death with 10 people from Japan and 8 of them turn out to be cunning then you are forded to make judgement about it. For the same reason I do not do any financial dealing with people who are grown up outside of Kathmandu valley. :)

meraj · Jul 31, 2015 5:36 PM

I wouldn't generalize whole Nepali community bad based upon single incident. I have been in your shoes, when i first arrived here in US i was conned by a Nepali fellow. Again, there are bad apples in every corners.

Civilman · Jul 31, 2015 7:55 PM

Kathmandu bahira kon haru vaen pachi manai aprdaina, kasto cheap, fohori ani harek kura ma faida befaida herchan

divorceguy · Jul 31, 2015 8:17 PM

I had quite many friends from Jhapa and i feel they are in general exaggerate, lie, makeup the stories and try to show up rich and smart. This is almost like their culture and most people there may not feel any thing out of it. I had talked this with my Jhapali friends they some how agree with it as well. I always wondered why exactly it happened much earlier in Jhapa than in rest of the Nepal (I think all the people in Nepal from every part are becoming similar to Jhapali nowadays). I think it happened in jhapa much earlier because Jhapa was the first migration hub from mountains. When people from different place migrate to other place they dont know each other. Their history, and family background are unknown to each other. In that case how much you can impress others, by what ever means, becomes your prestige or background and so on. Since no one knew other people around them, they could not trust each other, so they fall in social trap of showcasing extra prestige by exaggerating, making up things and cheating. Once this momentum sets in society, even the people who otherwise honest get carried way in the flow.

paradox · Aug 1, 2015 6:43 AM

I have some classmates from Jhapa they r cool, they do what all of us do.. But the one I stayed with were completely hide killer..

MEverest · Aug 1, 2015 7:50 AM

I am curious to learn about the root of this infamous sub-cultural prejudice against Jhapalis and Syanjalis by many who consider themselves non-Jhapalis. I will not make an attempt to shove my opinion on OC, no matter how much I dislike her opinion. There are many specific studies around 'unlearning automatic biases' but I am sure all my tirade towards OC's post will not make a dent to change her mind. We are all victims of our own biases. Should I call this out as a subtle cultural inconvenience? I bet many will agree that it is more than subtle and a major inconvenience, especially when putting forth a perceptual point about biased thread like this. In Maha Jodi's 'Pandhra Gate', there is a scene where a father is opposed to his daughter potentially marrying a guy from a family that eats 'Dhindo' (although the serial is about caste system), I took that analogy to point out that some families in Kathmandu are disinclined to let their children marry outside the valley, more so with 'Dera Wals'or renters. Again a biased perception. By the way, I am from Saptari and lived only few years in Kathmandu, in a dera, so my perception about Kathmandu based families showing distaste in marrying away to a migrant dera wal is ingrained in me due to my personal circumstance. I am an outsider in Kathmandu and a dera wal; so the prejudice. I remember my cousin, from Siraha and currently a CTO in an Orange, CA tech company, had a hard time finding a woman to marry in Kathmandu. Last year, his mom was reminiscing that many families had retracted marriage conversation after they knew my cousins were living in a dera in Kathmandu. Eventually, he ended up marrying a girl from Kathmandu anyways, my point was to say, hey! I am not making sense. No matter how much I analogize, my bias reflects. We all know how altruistic, mellow, doped, sexy, intellectual, smelly, ugly, cunning and courteous Jhapalis are. But we seldom realize that's an attribute of all humans. Could we ban @MEverest, for thinking the way she does? For me, I believe emigration and US education helped to tone down some of my personal prejudices. Which I concluded to believe that I would be more susceptible to stereotyping had I lived in the same place where I was born and received a homogeneous education. I then extrapolated, in my mind, that those circumstances give rise to subtle cultural dissonances shared by @MEverest. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pu... http://www.quora.com/Are-most-... Last edited: 01-Aug-15 10:51 AM Last edited: 01-Aug-15 10:51 AM

kalidasbhaisaab · Aug 1, 2015 10:50 AM