Ujl I think you misunderstood my question. I am not saying raising kids is US is a bad thing or the culture here is bad. If they grow up here then definitely they will soak up the culture/tradition here which is ok. What I am saying is carrying on tradition, language & connection to our families. As most of us have seen many Indians, Asians & Hispanics who were born and raised here are equally involved in their own tradition/cultures, bilingual & also identify themselves as Americans. I don't think you have to fully disavow one culture and adopt another. There is always a chance in future our kids might marry someone from here but if we can communicate with in-laws i don't think there going to be a big issue there as you can develop a connection via communication. This is what I am asking for first generation Nepali here in USA since most of our parents don't speak English.