Misleading title: the core problem here is not the way u were married but your inability to work things out with your spouse.
- Any kind of relationship is a bit of work. Forget about your spouse, you probably dont get along with your parents all the time and thats okay. Thats part of it but you dont ignore or dump your parents, do you? For that matter, it could be anybody.
- No body can make you love or hate a person. Before you jump to any conclusions, jot down the points that makes you feel your marriage is not working for you. You said your wife is not the problem so it might be you. If your the problem, getting away from her wont solve anything. Even if you guys separate, whats next for you? Do you see any silver lining or dark clouds ahead of you?