Posted by: Shruti_P June 16, 2015
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Hi Ujyalo,
Since I read your post about depression for the first time, I've been following your posts. You come up with so many random questions, I'm not sure if you ask those type of questions genuinely or just asking. Anyway, they show you have some confusion and depression. I'm concerned that you're not dealing with the problem.
Well, depression is manageable if you do something to treat it but if untreated it can be fatal just like other chronic diseases. There are different types of depression and their manifestations, treatments and recovery vary from person to person. Based on your posts, I think your depression might be situational, which means it is caused by things that happen in your life. It can be managed through professional counselling and/or medication. I think maybe about 4-5 months ago you posted about your depression and you got some suggestions to do exercises, yoga, meditation, etc. I'm not sure if you're doing those things but it seems like you are not getting any better.
In my opinion, in the US, there are many people who have a stressful life like you and feel anxiety about it. I find that many Americans use an anti-depression medication to manage stress and anxiety even though they are not clinically depressed. Unlike Americans, we Nepalese see depression as abnormal, as a mental illness rather than a normal if unwanted occurrence. If you talk about your depression with some Nepalese people they might inadvertently make things worse for you. We often hear of people committing suicide because of untreated depression.
I'm not an expert but from talking with people who know about depression here are some of my suggestions to you.
Please try to see a doctor as soon as possible; it can be a family doctor. Even if you are out of immigration status ( without insurance) you can find an inexpensive clinic like a county health department ( I hear they charge about $20). The doctor can prescribe an inexpensive antidepressant for you and I suggest you not to hesitate to take it. I hear the medicine helps you to see beyond the depression as well as motivates you to do exercise and other activities. Once you start feeling better and energetic and learn methods to control your depression such as exercise, meditation, etc. you may be able to cut back on the medication under the doctor's supervision. There are over-the-counter medications for depression, but I heard those are worthless. It is important that you be monitored by the doctor.
I read in another of your posts that you are going to get married to a Nepali girl with a 'green card'. Have you talked about your depression with her yet? If not I encourage you to share it with her and see how she takes it. I'm saying this because sometimes you come up with questions like, " I can't get up before 11 AM or sometimes 4 PM". " I feel weak, I can't work." "Can I buy new clothes on Sunday" ( something like that I forgot what day you mentioned), etc. What would she think if you talk to her like that after marriage? Try to feel strong and be optimistic with her.
Good luck trying to alleviate your depression!
Since I read your post about depression for the first time, I've been following your posts. You come up with so many random questions, I'm not sure if you ask those type of questions genuinely or just asking. Anyway, they show you have some confusion and depression. I'm concerned that you're not dealing with the problem.
Well, depression is manageable if you do something to treat it but if untreated it can be fatal just like other chronic diseases. There are different types of depression and their manifestations, treatments and recovery vary from person to person. Based on your posts, I think your depression might be situational, which means it is caused by things that happen in your life. It can be managed through professional counselling and/or medication. I think maybe about 4-5 months ago you posted about your depression and you got some suggestions to do exercises, yoga, meditation, etc. I'm not sure if you're doing those things but it seems like you are not getting any better.
In my opinion, in the US, there are many people who have a stressful life like you and feel anxiety about it. I find that many Americans use an anti-depression medication to manage stress and anxiety even though they are not clinically depressed. Unlike Americans, we Nepalese see depression as abnormal, as a mental illness rather than a normal if unwanted occurrence. If you talk about your depression with some Nepalese people they might inadvertently make things worse for you. We often hear of people committing suicide because of untreated depression.
I'm not an expert but from talking with people who know about depression here are some of my suggestions to you.
Please try to see a doctor as soon as possible; it can be a family doctor. Even if you are out of immigration status ( without insurance) you can find an inexpensive clinic like a county health department ( I hear they charge about $20). The doctor can prescribe an inexpensive antidepressant for you and I suggest you not to hesitate to take it. I hear the medicine helps you to see beyond the depression as well as motivates you to do exercise and other activities. Once you start feeling better and energetic and learn methods to control your depression such as exercise, meditation, etc. you may be able to cut back on the medication under the doctor's supervision. There are over-the-counter medications for depression, but I heard those are worthless. It is important that you be monitored by the doctor.
I read in another of your posts that you are going to get married to a Nepali girl with a 'green card'. Have you talked about your depression with her yet? If not I encourage you to share it with her and see how she takes it. I'm saying this because sometimes you come up with questions like, " I can't get up before 11 AM or sometimes 4 PM". " I feel weak, I can't work." "Can I buy new clothes on Sunday" ( something like that I forgot what day you mentioned), etc. What would she think if you talk to her like that after marriage? Try to feel strong and be optimistic with her.
Good luck trying to alleviate your depression!
Last edited: 16-Jun-15 03:57 PM