To anonymous: And what lord buddha did to his own parents? Did he take care of his parents in their old age? Why to talk about pay or repay? Its a process that every human goes through.I think communication and finding a mutual understanding between parents and children is the key to have a happy and healthy family relationship. We just don't talk extensively with our parents. Whatever is told by our parents is the ultimate truth, according to our culture. The vocabulary we use everyday is in fact the problem. To respect, care and nourish your parent is good. But not to the extent that one feels that s/he is pushed to the edge and is the only one to bear all the responsibilities. Equality starts at home we all know it but we hardly practice it. Typical Nepalese us, exceptions excluded.
 

Chori vaneko arka ko sampati ho. Chora vaneko budheskal ko latthi ho.Blah blah..these are the very vocabularies which create our mentality, shape up our thinking pattern, get manifested not only in our individual behaviour but also in society and in country at large. Enough is enough for both sons and daughters. I think it is a good start that finally we begin to talk on this issue.