Posted by: Bennedict January 18, 2023
Husband cheated on me, now what?
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@chicagoan, 
May be I misunderstood your write up there, but I would not call tpsg2c a male chauvinist per se. He is not saying only men can have extra-marital affairs as such or men are better etc. I think he is keeping a fair viewpoint over the extra-marital thing, i.e. since he has had some casual sex out of marriage so he does not mind finding out if his wife did it at some point of her life. See, these kinds of talks used to shock me while I was in Nepal, but now while being in this country for so long, I do not feel anything. This is how things are here. I have seen all kinds of odd and weirdest things on national TV here when I first came, like 'Wife Swappers', 'Dating Naked', bla bla. There are whole bunch of people out there who still indulge in these kinds of activities in US of A. My jaw constantly dropped initially when these kind of shows were being broadcasted...and remember some years ago, they had this data breach on this website called 'Asley Madison' where married or unmarried guys were signing to hook up with random girls and stay anonymous. It was like escort service fully covered in an appealing façade with some one liner like "Life is short, come have an affair". 
Then a journalist did a full scoop on how some young girls in Harvard are staying with their sugar daddies to finance their studies through out while giving their sugar daddies the "favor". You know what I mean right? Me being in Boston was disgusted to know about this kind of culture in this so called big Ivy League schools. See I have seen it all and I understand their intention too being an Asian with a different mindset coming from a dissimilar background. I may not indulge in these kind of activities, but people around me do, and as we all know lot of us in foreign countries have acclimatized very well to their surroundings. Like for example, Nepalese feasting on beef very easily after coming abroad. Nepalese are way forward in accepting the changes happening around. 
So coming back to what tps2gc has said, I do not feel "taken aback" like others may. I have had some friends in circle around me, who were all wild, jumping from bed to bed before marriage, but after marriage and kids, they kind of mellowed down, but when given a chance they would quite easily sleep around. They still do and then feel sorry after they come back to the reality. So I kind of buy what ts2gc has said above and then he is saying he is okay if he finds something like that about his wife, so that is a fair deal right?
Now telling about one's dirty deal to your spouse can be tormenting to the other, yes, but who would really wash the dirty linen so easily in public? It is like "Don't ask, don't tell" policy here. Finding out such liaisons from sources can do more harm than good, that I agree. And here we do not know what has transpired in Mrs Glowing's case.

I am not advocating any kind of culture that I do not believe, but I am just giving a benefit of doubt to tps2gc. I will tell you one thing, what makes me really angry. I had this Syrian friend, now no longer in touch. He used to brag about all his sex relations he was having in his life and then one day he said, he is going to find a Syrian girl who is "virgin" and "homely" to make his wife. Man, I had the longest debate with this bro. That is the double standards that grosses me out every now and then. You can have all the fun in your life and then when it comes to marriage, you want the purest being untouched by none?? 
At least tps2gc is not saying anything in that line, right?
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