OK, let me say something now. First, I come to Sajha to have a good time, to take my much needed break from all day of classes and work, and I am sure, many of the Sajha visitors come here for the same reason. Its always good to read what many of us who are abroad have to say about the issues pertaining to Nepal and the world. Its good to exchnage ideas and engage in a debate that challenges you. Some of you might totally disagree with my position on certain issues, but by disagreeing and challenging me, you have made me think more, read more and back up my views with more evidence and in a more acceptable manner. And that's one of the many reasons that I come here, read the messages and post my views on certain issues. I believe that its not the ideas that are bad, its just the way you present your ideas/views. You can be totally civil and get your views across, rather than be condescending and disrespecting towards others for their views. Of course, I did not learn this overnight. It took years to learn this, and I am proud and happy that I learned this. Its helping me a lot with my classes too. When I say something in my class, there's 20 people contradicting me, and it doesn't feel bad. I do not chnage my views based on what they say, but it does help me think from 20 different angles, which in turn helps me defend my views from 20 more different angles. About my answer/reply to moneyminded: I read his reply. Obviously he had misudnerstood/misread me. Maybe he was having a bad day, or he just read parts of what I wrote. And I saw no reason why I should go around explaining something that was written in a plain, simple English ( Due to my own lack of understanding of the language.) So to settle the matter without hurting anyone's ego, I wrote a message in Nepali saying, there has been a misunderstanding, so let's read each others' post carefully and after reviewing all the posts, we'll carry on with the discussion. If people want to interpret my reconciliatary appraoch as my weakness, then be it. But let me tell you one thing, which I am learning now: Sometimes people say things without understanding what the other person is saying or trying to say. It happens in the real life too. You should try to either make them understand or just let them think the way they think, unless and until its absolutely necessary to correct them. There's no reason to be taking it seriously, you are better off simply brushing off those comments/issues. If I had chosen a collison appraoch and had started to correct and translate every line, or had been unwilling to budge even an inch on a simple "Shit" stuff, imagine how much time I would be thinking about my replies to every message here, and wasting a good amount of time checking Sajha every 5 minutes. This thread would have turned from good to bad to ugly, like some of the threads in the past. The same thing happens in the real life too. You sometimes let the people understand themselves instead of you trying to make them understand. And when they themselves understand and come to you and say, good I agree with your point or well, I don't seem to agree with your point, its a good feeling. At least, the person made some effort to understand what I had written. The whole purspose of writing is not to show that you know what you know, its just expressing your ideas on certain issues and have people read your views and either corerct you, criticize you or agree with you, after correctly reading and understanding what you have written. And also there are some people who are in a totally different tangent, and its just a sheer waste of time and energy to be engaging in verbal exchanges with them. You just learn to not to take those seriously because as I wrote earlier, if you start taking every thing in Sajha and life seriously, then you hamper your own emotional and intellectual growth. Lastly, being an international relations major, I believe in deGaulle's "Detente" approach. Sometimes, you have to make the first move, and people will later, if not sooner, appreciate that. Nixon crossed the great wall to ameliorate the relationship with China- a nation of one billion people- and although at that time, it was seen as not a good move, now almost every literature on Sino-US relations hails Nixon's move as one of the greatest diplomatic victory of the United States. Sometimes, you have to follow realpolitik, and have a clear udnerstanding of the world, based on the surrounding reality. You have to know how you can maximize your interests, not minimize those. WHen you learn that, then you know when to take things seriously, when to make it your ego issue and when just take things lightly. Your life becomes a lot more interesting and you end up making many "Worthy" friends. Feel free to disagree. Constructicve criticims always welcome.